The Power of Gratitude pt 2

By: Khamaria Wright

It’s amazing how much pressure we put on ourselves. It’s gotten to the point that we can’t “live in the now”. I used to criticize myself so much that it took away from things that I should appreciate and value. Last year I didn’t accomplish a personal goal that I set for myself. I started feeling down about it and I almost wanted to give up.

I’ve been told that setting unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and resentments. I’m realizing now that each time the New Year comes around, I set demanding expectations of myself. This is also when my “negative self talk”, fears, and doubt, start to creep in.

When I wrote my first gratitude list it became clear that I have achieved and overcame much more than I thought. It also helped me realize that I still have time to work on any unfinished goals with a more realistic approach.

Here are some tips that helped me put things into perspective for 2020 Goals:

1. Set short term and long-term goals: Make strides to work on these goals no matter the length of time.

2. Don’t compare your goals to anyone else’s because what’s for you is truly for YOU!

3. Write down your goals.

4. Make a gratitude list.

5. Mindfulness/ Meditation: use this to ground yourself.

6. Being Pro-Active: although you may set short term/long term goals be mindful to start working towards those goals.

7. Having an Accountability Partner: Have someone that will hold you accountable when things get tough, or just to motivate you through the process.

8. Stay positive- This is a PROCESS

9. Not accomplishing a goal doesn’t mean that you’re a failure. It means that you now have more time to work on something that you truly value.

10. Something I learned in therapy is whenever you say I haven’t accomplished something always put the word “yet” behind it because it just means that goal is in process.